Ruffa Gutierrez Wants To Marry AgainIf it's up to her daughters, Lorin and Venice, Ruffa Gutierrez should not marry again. She was previously married to Lorin's and Venice's father, Turkish businessman Ylmaz Bektas.
Ruffa shared that last Mother's Day, Lorin wrote her a letter, saying that she wished it will be just the three of them forever. Ruffa was previously linked to actor John Lloyd Cruz and Congressman Lino Cayetano.
Lorin, however, told her mother that she knows she will fall in love in the future again. Only that time, she hopes that man will love them too and won't break Ruffa's heart.
Ruffa is proud that her daughters grew up to be mature and that they are close enough to her to open up about these things.
The former beauty queen said she doesn't want her kids to face someone who doesn't meet their standards. "Hindi naman ako magpapakilala ng isang tao na sa tingin ko ay hindi puwedeng mahalin ng mga anak ko. They’re smart naman na... gusto nga nila na kaming tatlo na lang, ‘di ba?"
Although Ruffa is happy to spend all her time with her daughters, in the real world, she knows she also needs someone to be her partner for life.
Her daughters have finally stopped hoping she will get back together with their father. Now, they understand that they can love Ylmaz and Ruffa separately. They are also happy for the both of them.
Ruffa said she will never grow old alone since she still has her family and her kids. Also, she is still hoping to meet the person who will hold her hand until the very end. "I don’t wanna be an old maid, ‘no! I’m too cute to end up an old maid!"
What will happen though if her mother, Annabelle Rama, goes against her boyfriend? Ruffa said her mom is just like that--always reactionary. Her mother is the kind of person who doesn't easily forgive and forget. She still remembers the person she hates 10 years ago, Ruffa said.
Meanwhile, Ruffa is not closing doors when it comes to her kids someday entering showbiz too. It's in their blood, she said. However, her real wish for them is to finish school and have a diploma.
Ruffa said she wants her kids to be like KC Concepcion--that even though she's in showbiz now, she already has a degree to fall back on.
"Hindi naman lahat tayo ay sinusuwerte sa buhay. Suwerte lang ako na binigyan ako ng chance na buhayin ang mga anak ko kahit na ako ay single mom."
Ruffa believes that her children will be more equipped to face the real world if they have something they have achieved outside of showbiz. But for now, Ruffa said she'll always guide her kids when it comes to their endorsements and commercials.
What scares her is that someday, her kids will grow up and will meet guys. "Yung boys na aaligid-aligid sa kanila, handa ko na ba silang awayin? Gusto ko na ring maging Annabelle Rama one day, yung mga ganun."
But then again, Ruffa is teaching herself to be balanced when it comes to her kids--to know when to hold on and when to let them be independent. She wants them to have conservative values but to be liberal when it comes to their studies.