Kris Aquino Talks About Breakup With Herbert BautistaFor the first time, Queen Of All Media Kris Aquino opened up about her breakup with Quezon City Mayor Herbert Bautista. She talked about him during the "P.O.V." segment of "The Buzz" on June 29 (Sunday).
Kris decided to talk about what happened between them because of Herbert's interview on a segment of "Bandila" last June 6. In that interview, the mayor said he had to leave Kris because his kids don't like her for him.
It's been three months since they broke up shortly after Kris admitted they are together. Kris said it was hard for her not to talk about her feelings. It's hard especially because she's part of two talk shows--"The Buzz" and "Aquino & Abunda Tonight."
"Ironic nga na siya naman ang unang nagsalita, when expected ng lahat na ako ang mag-overshare. I did keep quiet for one human reason, I got hurt for the very same reason because I truly loved him."
In a perfect world, the same type of love she gives would also be the same type of love she will receive. But that is not the case with Herbert. The people around them did not understand their feelings or their relationship.
"Perfect timing means, yung mga naging parte ng nakaraan niyo, happy na. Kaya okey sa kanila na maging happy ka na rin."
She and ex-husband James Yap had closure already. After all, they already got annulled and they also forgave each other just a few months ago.
Her sons, Josh and Bimby, also accepted Herbert in her life because they know he makes her happy. They were ready to share her to the mayor. "Tama ang timing sa side ko."
When two people fall in love at their age, it's normal already for them to talk about settling down. She also felt that Herbert was her bestfriend since he knew her inside and out.
It was an "effortless" relationship for them, Kris said, adding that she believed everything will fall into place because it was meant to be. She had faith in "forever."
"For someone who came from heartbreak, that was so hard to believe in forever again, and you believe that he wasn’t going to play games, and you believe na meron ka nang lifetime companion."
Even though they are both in showbiz and politics, Kris felt at that time that it is possible for them to fall in love and have a happy life together. It was not money or position that was attractive about them. They weren't using each other. They simply needed each other for themselves.
She shared one special moment about them. They were in Starbucks one Sunday and when they were about to pay for their drinks, the cashier asked if they want to split the bill. They did. They felt like a normal couple.
"And then, unexpectedly, he breaks up with you. You choose to see the breakup from his perspective, because you do understand."
She understands because like Herbert, she will also do anything for her sons. She just chose to hide the heartbreak and cry herself to sleep every night.
Kris made sure her two kids were already sleeping by the time she let herself cry. She also decided to forgive Herbert because she really did love him, admired him and respected him.
Herbert talked to Bimby "man to man" and explained to him about their relationship. He apologized to Bimby because he knew that Bimby saw Kris was hurt.
As a gentleman, Herbert knew that he should own up to it and say sorry to Bimby. He knew that Bimby would feel the pain of his mother and that he would want to protect Kris.
Herbert values his kids' feelings, so he promised Kris that he will fix the issue with his kids first and then go back to Kris. And because she loves him, she started fixing herself and hoping that they will be together in the end.
She prayed to God that they are really the one for each other, and that they can be together in the future. She also prayed that Herbert be given enough strength to fix his issues and for her to have patience to wait for him.
And then one night, she watched "Bandila" and she heard his answers that he won't go back to her anymore. "Alam mo kasi na live yun, hindi yun edited, and it wakes you up to the reality na wala pala talagang somewhere down the road para sa inyo."
"And you can’t stop crying kasi yung future na inakala mo, yung ipinagdarasal mo, the future that kept you going, that dreams just disappear."
Kris believed Herbert came into her life because she needed to be humble, to realize how it feels to be left alone.
"Masakit yun, ha. Masakit na ipamukha sa buong mundo na kahit mahal na mahal mo yung tao, sa isang live interview, aamin siya na ayaw na niya sa ‘yo, hindi ka na niya babalikan, and tatanggapin mo yun."
She believed that God gave her this kind of challenge because she is being prepared for something good in the future. She also needed to learn something--love forgives and love can actually be quiet; that love can be selfless.
What was her message to Herbert? Sincerely, Kris hopes that he gets whatever he desires in his life. She wishes that he will be complete as a person.
She proved to herself that with Herbert, she can love unconditionally. All her life, Kris was selfish, but she learned the opposite from Herbert.
"And kahit hindi nga maganda ang naging ending natin, ito yung first time na nakapagsalita ako na hindi ako umiiyak. Hindi ako galit. Na grateful lang ako na dumating ka sa buhay ko."
Someday, Kris hopes that they can be friends again.